Proof! I am getting through.....

I have often stressed and wondered over the last several months if my disciplining and talks to Sophia have been getting through. She gets time outs when she hurts Phoebe or does something she really shouldn't, then we sit and talk about what she did, and then she has to apologize to whomever she insulted (usually Phoebe). Over the last few weeks we have begun a couple new things in our efforts to make Sophia nicer and calmer toward Phoebe and other kids. One, we have started asking her (after she hit or whatever) what she could have done differently or what she should have done instead. She has responded very well and quickly to this with replies like "not hit Phoebe, not Push Phoebe, say sorry" and etc. And two, when Phoebe does bother her but grabbing a toy or her blanket or cup, instead of screaming and crying at her she needs to tell Phoebe in a nice voice to "please not take my blankie, give it back. I want my blankie." and so on. I have been able to catch her a few times at the beginning of a scream and remind her what she is to do. She calms down and then proceeds to ask Phoebe for her item back.

We had a little girlfriend over recently that she has never played with before and she actually used some of her 'new skills'! The girl was getting frustrated and a little aggressive and started swiping at Sophia, so Sophia shook her finger at the girl repeatedly and told her to not hit her. This happened twice too! There was another time I had to send Sophia to her room for a time out and within seconds of being in her room she was begging to say sorry to Phoebe (but I sense that was more because she always says sorry when she gets to come out), but nonetheless I was proud that she was offering on her own. There was even another time I yelled at Phoebe for doing something inappropriate and Sophia very firmly told me to not yell at Phoebe.

This is all a glimmer of hope for me to not give up what I am doing, it IS working, and maybe things will be okay between these 2 girls!
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  1. AdrianNovember 24, 2008 at 1:42 PM

    I love that photo of your girls! They both have such blue, blue eyes, but look so different, too... It is so rewarding when you realize that the effort you're making is having an effect!! I'm glad that it's finally starting to pay off for you. Parenting is hard work!!

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